I don't want to have kids for a few years after I'm married. I've talked with Alexa about this and she agrees with me, thankfully.
My parents had my older brother less than a year after they were married. Not that it ruined their marriage, but I'm sure they wished they had had more time together as a young couple without having a child around. I know I'm going to want to do things with Alexa that won't be as easily done with a kid. I'd like to travel a little bit, feel free to move if we have to, just enjoy each others company.
When a couple has a child all the attention is focused on the it. There is little time for each other, which is why, I assume, most people get married. You want to spend more time with that person, get to know them better, become better friends. Children get in the way of that.
It might be selfish of me to not want kids for these reasons, but it's important to me. I'm sure my parents were looking forward to being able to spend time together without us. Unfortunately, my dad didn't make it that long. I don't want that to happen to me. If I die when I'm 42 I want to know that I had some fun with the woman I love before responsibilities came crowding in.
I look at one of our couple-friends and I see how great they get along and how much they're enjoying the freedom that comes without having a child. I want to experience that before I experience the supposed joy of having progeny.
There is also the financial burden of having a little parasite. I would like to establish myself first, save some money, then procreate.
I look forward to having a kid, I just don't want to do it yet.
Teaser: The next blog will be music related.
This is a cool link (mainly intended for Aaron of the Aaron-faces and Ned of the Nucking Futz, even though one of them doesn't read the blog).
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once again: have a kid, it, a parasite, etc. are not appropriate ways to refer to a baby. git yo shit together, dawg.
Freedom is wonderful, but there are pressures to not having a baby. It's much more acceptable to be married w/o children in good old Ann Arbor than it is where I grew up. One of my best friends that I graduated with has a child in my mom's class this year. She teaches 3rd grade. This is totally normal. Ppl worry about us b/c we don't have three kids yet. I'm just sayin'.
wooorrrrddd. nice link brah. i miss ya. get at me daaawwwwwg.
oh yeah, and I have a non-biological kid and love her to death. The bonding of raising a child can be one of the deepest friendships, and most valuable learning experiences. I'm madly in love and hopefully, down the road, we get married and have a child of our own. The time we spend with Emma usually involves giving her a lot of attention to help her become an intelligent, secure individual. But having a kid strengthens relationships in different ways. Plus we have tons of family around who always love to watch Emma, which allows us that time to relax and watch a movie, sleep early, go to the bar, shop, etc. We still have freedom, which is important as well. Whatever happens it does for a reason. You will be happy with whatever time frame you decide, if it is a planned thing- lets pray for no accidents! ;) Be safe bro-dawg-man-dude. ps: Call it how it is, a parasite. BOOYAH!
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