My immediate future is a bit daunting right now. There are many possibilities and I'm not sure I'm prepared to tackle them in the short amount of time I have.
In less than ten months I'll be married. I still have to decide who will be standing in my wedding. This seems like a small thing and I'm sure I'm putting too much thought into it, but I want the people standing with me to mean something. I've grown apart from most of the people I would have considered from my high school years and I have not made any REALLY good friends while in college. I have becomes friends with some pretty great people, but I don't feel especially close to anyone in particular. The only person I feel comfortable telling everything to will already be standing at the altar with me (and I don't think she'd look too good in a tuxedo.) The decision will have to be made soon. I await my decision with great anticipation.
My main problem has been my lack of drive to put the effort into becoming great friends with anyone. I'm far too critical of people and I always feel that my friends mean more to me than I do to them. This feeling has definitely made it hard to decide.
Another thing that has been weighing me down has been the impending move. I will, doubtlessly, be moving out of the state. The thought originally scared the bejeezus out of me, but I have grown comfortable with the idea and have actually come to look forward to it. Alexa and I are being pulled in many directions as to where we may end up. Almost my entire family is in Michigan and doesn't seem to be on the move. Alexa's family, however, has split south and west. Her sister, Faye, has been in California for a long time and is deeply rooted there. Alexa and I agree that California is a great place to visit but it isn't where we want to be permanently. Her parents have moved to North Carolina and I can definitely understand why Alexa would like to move there.
It has gotten to the point where we have decided that we don't want to move closer to family, simply to avoid seeming like we are playing favorites. I feel forgotten in this mess. My family is here. I would love to stay closer to them, but I know it's almost impossible with Michigan's constantly flagging economy. There are certainly benefits to living in all of the places, but there are also downsides.
We have, instead, turned our collective eyes to South Dakota. We have friends who have recently moved there and we really love them. They're a great couple and moving to a place with friends who have roots in the area is a definite plus.
My interview also went very well, as I mentioned in a previous post, and I now have that to concern me. I feel a little uncomfortable with the idea of getting the job knowing that I may be gone in a year.
Too many decisions, so little time.
Oh. And we still have to plan most of our wedding.
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I think we can handle it, Kev. And I don't think I'd look awful in a tuxedo! But I will look much nicer in my dress. :)
Congratulations on the awesome interview. I hope everything works out well job-wise.
As far as who to have stand up for you in your wedding, my advice would be to think unconventionally. My brother had me stand up for him. I've seen couples where one four has attendants and the other only two. Langy had someone who was like a second mother to her be a matron in her wedding, and she's in her fifties. Try to focus on the people you really love and don't limit yourself to your age group and finding the same number of people as Alexa has.
Those are my two cents worth. Obviously it's your decision, so good luck with that one as well :)
As always, if you need any wedding advice/help we are good for that! And of course we'll help you plan a move in any way possible, even if it's not to our great state. We'll keep our fingers crossed in the meantime.
xxoo,
Ashley
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